Puchulo's Blog

Fresh “Cold” Start

puchulo — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 22:05:13 +0000

First day of the year. Coney Island. Polar bear annual New Year’s Day gathering. Cold Atlantic Ocean waters. Get the picture. Well, the reality is that the water was not that cold. The beach was packed with enthusiasts rushing to take the first dip of the year. Cold water to wake us up into new and better beginnings. Cold salted water to exorcize the weaknesses of the past. My grandmother used to love the ocean and believed that salt water had the same power of a gemstone. Cold salted water, take your first dip, exorcize my past… enlighten me to start fresh powerfully.

Run your own Race

puchulo — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 20:58:52 +0000

Run your own race

I just ran a 10K in Central Park. While running I thought that it has been long time since I post a blog and the subject of racing resonated with something I have been meaning to share with you. Since the last blog, I have ran so many races including the recent NYC marathon. They are so parallel to life itself. You set your target, you set your pace and there you go. It feels easy at first, you feel invigorated by the thought of getting the final prize. … Finish line… “I did it”… pure joy. On the road you would find other runners that you might feel pulled to follow. Some of these runners can push you to do your best; they challenge your limits. Run with them as long as you can and honor them for being part of your race for as long as you can keep the same pace. Do run your own race thus. Other runners can drag you down; they might be too slow and make you loose your momentum. The later you have to let them go and continue your race and your tempo. Don’t forget to breathe. While running sometimes you might get distracted. I did today. While running there were these two cute guys running in briefs in a day with temperatures in the 30’s. It was daring and sexy at the same time. Their cute behinds distracted me. I started racing to keep their pace and almost crash. Eventually I cached my breath, came to my senses and continue my own race. There are occasions when you would find someone who has given up. Reminders of your own pain. Don’t join them. Acknowledge that you can hurt sometimes, but you never surrender. Don’t give up boy, keep running your race. Concentrate on your breathing. Take inspirations from those who push going uphill. Drift along as long as your body can take it and then the eye on the road, run your own race. At the start you might find some challenges. I almost got ticketed for parking next to a water pump; running out of time to get to the starting line. Luck was on my side thus. You need not to copy all your mother bad habits. She means well, but she ain’t perfect. She does run her own race. Boy you should run your own. As you run, you will get stronger, you will get lighter. Run your own race, run not anybody’s race. Run your race, feel the joy. Breathe. Whatever distance, run your race and have fun with it.

Be a Man and dance!

puchulo — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 18:57:35 +0000

Are you familiar with the phrase “It takes a real man to wear pink,” well that applies to you. I’m really proud to see how secured you are of your masculinity ….that would jump and join the girls to do their dance. Notwithstanding all the attention you probably get from all your female counterparts, you don’t neglect your male peers. You jump and join the boys to do their dance too. That’s the key …. embracing your whole being. It took me a while to embrace my femininity. Extreme sports and rough games were always my favourite activities as a young girl. Being that these pursuits were not popular among girls, I ended up spending most of my growing up years with boys. This I believe was somehow detrimental to my relationships with men at later stage in my life. Let me explain this further. I could not relate to men as a woman but mostly as a man. It took so exorcism including getting more dresses, high heels and girls’ night out to get to know the woman that most men crave to be around. In the upside…… today I feel complete. I’m the best man I know. I’ve become the most feminine woman whenever I want to be. I have embraced my masculine side and still be fully connected to my natural feminine side. Keep dancing my boy and be a Man. Keep the balance.

Sometimes, it’s better to wait

puchulo — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 18:43:46 +0000

Sometimes, it’s better to wait, so that you can say right things in the appropiate context. Sometimes, actions is the best weapon to avoid regrets. Wisdom is needed to decide which is the right course.

Who am I now?

puchulo — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:33:35 +0000

I just had a long pep talk with your brother. I’m trying to help him navigate this challenging years in his life. With your absence, it’s like a privileged school for him, one teacher-one student ratio. I get to see his every move. I want to guide him, but most importantly, I want him to find his own voice among the noise of adolescence. I must confess that adolescence never ends, we keep involving as individuals. Who am I now? I’m the last 5 closest friends I hanged out in the past five years, plus the dozen books I’ve read. I’m their dreams and their fears. I’m the fearlessness of the author who prescribed me to stop standing in the medium and act. So, you see, when in middle age, I thought I’ve figured it all out… I realized I’m still evolving. One thing, thus, I’m one of those that don’t believe in things being pre-determined. I believe that knowing gives you the power to choose who your closest friends are going to be for the next five years and what books to buy. Whatever you do, be aware who are you being now and who your future self would likely be.

Bona Fide

puchulo — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 15:05:33 +0000

Have you ever told yourself one thing, and then went on to do something else? If so, then chances are you lack integrity. Integrity simply means being honest with yourself or doing what you say you are going to do by the time said, and believing in what you say you believe in. When your actions are in harmony with your beliefs, then you have integrity. We always face issues of integrity in life. Small issues seem like not a big deal at the time. But throughout our lives they will have a cumulative effect, and so all of our actions. No matter how big or small, this will eventually affect our sense of self. Over time we not only have a greater sense of self- respect and trust from ourselves but also from others. So, whatever you do today, show integrity. Be your word.

Who do you want to be?

puchulo — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 14:54:55 +0000

We are the product of our habits. We are a bundle of habits. This is such a great revelation. The revelation that at any given time, I can remake myself any way I want by creating a new habit. I have done that throughout the years. Some habits have died. … or better said they have been replaced by others. Instead of sitting in the sofa, I clean up the dust around the house. Instead of watching TV, I’m exploring a new sport activity. What is really fascinating about habits is that you can not only get used to something you hated in the past, you can fall so much in love with it that you can’t live without it after the habit is formed. For example, I remember when I was a kid my father would tell me to pick up a book and read whenever he saw me doing something unproductive. I hated that. I almost resented it. I can’t live without my books today. Here’s where it lays one of the secrets of creation. We can create within ourselves, whatever we decide, whatever we choose. We can be whoever we choose to be by creating the habits that would shape the person we want to become. At the end, we are product of those habits. We can let habits come by default or we can have say in it. Remake yourself, whatever you choose to be.

Ojos, Oido, Boca – use them wisely

puchulo — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 12:01:19 +0000

Cuidadito mis ojitos lo que ven, cuidadito mis ojitos lo que ven en le cielo esta el senor, nos cuida con amor, cuidadito mis ojitos lo que ven

Cuidadito mis oidos lo que oir, cuidadito mis oidos lo que oir
en el cielo esta el senor, nos cuida con amor, cuidadito mis oidos lo que oir

Cuidadito mi boquita lo que hablar, cuidadito mi boquita lo que hablar
en el cielo esta el senor, nos cuida con amor, cuidadito mi boquita lo que hablar

I have explored fantasies
I have gotten depressed or have danced to the sound of music
I have cured myself with my word

These abilities are way too powerful. They can create or distord your world. Whatever you do, use them wisely.

What am I an expert on?

puchulo — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 11:42:15 +0000

What am I really good at?
What do I feel passionate about?
What is it that I do that I can’t get enough?
When is it that time seems to go too fast?
When do I feel my total self?
……. I’m being an expert…

Wait it out

puchulo — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 04:12:16 +0000

One word could save the day or all you have to do is breathe and …… wait it out!